Ever listened to a coach define anxiety in such a way that would modify it completely?
I'll never forget sitting in class and having my master coach say to everybody, "Now a lot of things are going to change in your life, and this can bring up some hysteria, but just think of this anxiety as new things happening. "
Woah.
New things occuring? I haven't ever thought of it like that before. When we get down to define anxiety in a strict sense, it's a sense of worry or nervous tension about a situation that has a pinch of doubt surrounding it. What could actually happen next? What will the result be? In a way, anxiety is a fantastic indicator of forward thinking or "row boat thinking," a phrase I have lately coined.
What is the thought behind "row boat thinking?"
Each one of us are supplied with a fascinating narrative all thoughout our lives that sounds a lot like this..."I'll be happy when that occurs. It will certainly all turn out when I get there. " The issue is, we are rowing toward this island that does not exist. We think it's there, but it really is one of the best created mirages we have ever experienced. It's really sexy. It's seductive. It's just enough to keep us grasping and thirsting for more. But there's real danger in this type of thinking meanging that anxiousness can be our best indicator that we are actually caught in the process of doing it in the first place.
Living in the future can have as many negative side effects as living in the past. We all really know what it's like to want to escape our past, but I'm going to say that we should avoid living in the future just as much. We will get stuck in a place, a very uncertain place, that honestly is beyond our control. Should you set goals and have a vision for what you desire out of your life? Definitely. But the danger is building the basis of your contentment on such a place.
The one guarantee I'm able to make you about this life is that it will absolutely change. You cannot go to the past, the present is changeable at any moment and the future is to be decided.
So what can we do?
That uncertainty...love it. Embrace the hell out of it. The unsure places in your life are opportunities to have nothing short than true magic happen. Do you really know what is going to happen? Naturally not. Will you try to project as much as possible? Yes, we've all done that haven't we? But when you start returning to the present moment, constantly because our minds never stop getting distracted, you get to totally be here. Here is a excellent spot to be. Start really seeing what is occurring around you rather than hiding and spending too much time distracting yourself from everything that isn't right here and now.
So all nervousness actually is, when it really boils down to it, is new things taking place. Love that feeling and sit with it. Basically take the time to truly feel the anxiety in your stomach and then take a moment to start to comprehend why it's coming up. "In this moment, what is the thing that's taking place now that's new?" When you attempt to do that, well, things become a lot more fun. But when you stop living in days to come the uneasiness disipates and begins to disappear altogether.
It's all about how we define anxiety in the first place.
I'll never forget sitting in class and having my master coach say to everybody, "Now a lot of things are going to change in your life, and this can bring up some hysteria, but just think of this anxiety as new things happening. "
Woah.
New things occuring? I haven't ever thought of it like that before. When we get down to define anxiety in a strict sense, it's a sense of worry or nervous tension about a situation that has a pinch of doubt surrounding it. What could actually happen next? What will the result be? In a way, anxiety is a fantastic indicator of forward thinking or "row boat thinking," a phrase I have lately coined.
What is the thought behind "row boat thinking?"
Each one of us are supplied with a fascinating narrative all thoughout our lives that sounds a lot like this..."I'll be happy when that occurs. It will certainly all turn out when I get there. " The issue is, we are rowing toward this island that does not exist. We think it's there, but it really is one of the best created mirages we have ever experienced. It's really sexy. It's seductive. It's just enough to keep us grasping and thirsting for more. But there's real danger in this type of thinking meanging that anxiousness can be our best indicator that we are actually caught in the process of doing it in the first place.
Living in the future can have as many negative side effects as living in the past. We all really know what it's like to want to escape our past, but I'm going to say that we should avoid living in the future just as much. We will get stuck in a place, a very uncertain place, that honestly is beyond our control. Should you set goals and have a vision for what you desire out of your life? Definitely. But the danger is building the basis of your contentment on such a place.
The one guarantee I'm able to make you about this life is that it will absolutely change. You cannot go to the past, the present is changeable at any moment and the future is to be decided.
So what can we do?
That uncertainty...love it. Embrace the hell out of it. The unsure places in your life are opportunities to have nothing short than true magic happen. Do you really know what is going to happen? Naturally not. Will you try to project as much as possible? Yes, we've all done that haven't we? But when you start returning to the present moment, constantly because our minds never stop getting distracted, you get to totally be here. Here is a excellent spot to be. Start really seeing what is occurring around you rather than hiding and spending too much time distracting yourself from everything that isn't right here and now.
So all nervousness actually is, when it really boils down to it, is new things taking place. Love that feeling and sit with it. Basically take the time to truly feel the anxiety in your stomach and then take a moment to start to comprehend why it's coming up. "In this moment, what is the thing that's taking place now that's new?" When you attempt to do that, well, things become a lot more fun. But when you stop living in days to come the uneasiness disipates and begins to disappear altogether.
It's all about how we define anxiety in the first place.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author and creator of The Words Of Encouragement a website dedicated to bringing encouraging words to all those who are in need of some help, whether that ranges from helping people define anxiety to providing them with strong powerful quotes about life so they can continue to chase their dreams.